by Master Mystic,
Waxing, also commonly referred to as "Fire and Ice" is the use of molten candle wax and ice in a scene or during play. But for the purpose of this page we will be discussing waxing only. Hot wax can be applied to breasts, butts, tummies, arms, genitalia, just about anywhere on the human body. However to the untrained it can be dangerous and should not be tried unless you have practiced and perfected the art! Reading this will in no way make you an expert all of a sudden.
The key to a good waxing scene is setting up the scene. I have personally found that a blindfold works well in keeping the submissive guessing and anticipating. It has been said that to a blindfolded lover, the sensation of ice can feel as hot as melted wax. Waxing can be a very erotic form of play and those who have participated in or watched a waxing scene can attest to this.
First things first:
1. The Candle:
There are two basic types of candles, beeswax and paraffin. Most people choose to use paraffin. Beeswax burns at a much higher temperature than paraffin and since the idea here is to enjoy there is no reason to burn the submissive unnecessarily. Candles contain basic ingredients other than just wax such as, hardeners, coloring, and scent. These things tend to also raise the melting temperature of the candle. So what kind is best? It is recommended you go to your local hardware store, supermarket or discount store and look for emergency or utility candles. Also Shabbat candles are a good candle to use. They are Jewish candles and contain no additives and are about an inch in diameter and 4 3/4 inches in length. Remember also the size of the candle can dictate the melting temperature. Candles come in tapers, pillars, votive and containers. Candles in containers are cooler and tapers tend to be hotter.
2. Testing the Candle:
Yes you read correctly, Test The Candle, and I'm not talking about giving it a written test to prove it's worthiness as a candle. You need to test the candle temperature on yourself each and every time before applying any hot wax on another person. I knew a sub once who attempted to apply hot wax to herself without any prior learning. She learned the hard way there is a wrong and right way to doing it. A lesson I don't think she will soon forget either. You test the temperature of the candle by dripping the wax on your inner arm, much like you would check the temperature on baby formula. (For those who have never tried this find an experienced mom somewhere).
You should drip the wax from the shame height as you would your partner (12" to 18" is a good starting height). This gives you a pretty good idea of what to expect when you drip or pour the wax on someone else. It's also a good idea if you are using different types of candles to practice ahead of time with each one. Remember different candles burn at different temperatures. Don't judge all candles temperature the same. Also be aware of the splatter of the candle when testing making note the higher you hold it the wider the area it tends to splatter. This is important so you don't splatter it in the face or hair.
3. Preparing the Surface and Area:
Unless you happened upon someone who is made of teflon you might want to consider preparing the area of the person you plan to drip wax on ahead of time. Some people prefer to prepare the area(s) to be waxed with a moisturizing lotion, baby oil or mineral oil to make removal easier, especially on parts of the body that has hair. Course this could be a good excuse to do a shaving scene before your waxing scene too to remove that body hair. Again this should be tested on yourself first. Also be careful not to use any lotion or oil that will heat up when the wax is applied.
Next you want to prepare the area (not the sub) that you will be doing the scene. Clear the area of any potential hazards. Keep in mind there is an open flame here and you want to make sure the area is clear of any combustibles (curtains, paper, clothing etc.) and flammables (fuel) prior to having open flamed candles. If you aren't careful you'll have more than a waxing scene going on and it will be tough to explain to the fire department also. Use a sturdy table and put drop cloths underneath to catch any wax drippings that may fall. You also need a small sturdy table or surface in which you place your candles so they won't be knocked over or fall accidentally.
4. The Waxing:
Now remember everything you read before this;
Start dripping the wax from a height several feet above the body and gradually bring it closer, testing on your arm periodically as you reduce the height. It is best when doing this for the first time especially you start with less sensitive areas like the back or chest, and work your way up slowly. Keep in mind nipples and labia are more sensitive. This also gives the person receiving the wax a chance to get used to the feel of it.
If the person being waxed complains of a burn, Do Not Hesitate. Apply a cold damp cloth to area to soak up wax and cool residue. Carefully remove wax residue, and continue to cool off the skin with damp cloths for a minute or two to limit the burn Do not use ice on a burn. If the burn blisters at all, seek immediate medical attention !.
5. Wax Removal and Clean Up:
Unless you plan to donate your newly waxed victim to a wax museum somewhere you'll need to know the best ways to remove wax from them. You can remove wax several ways, you can scraped it with a knife or an ice scraper. It can be peeled off or chipped away once it has completely hardened. However you can hold ice to it briefly or a cold compress if the wax doesn't come off right away. Try again, it should come right off. A word of caution, the skin that is under wax can be more sensitive than usual once the wax is removed. This should only lasts a short while provided there were no burns. Afterwards the waxee should take a shower to remove remaining wax and oils the wax will sometimes leave behind.
Cleanup of the area that may have gotten some escaping wax on it can be cleaned up very much the same ways you cleaned up your waxee. It can be scraped, chipped or peeled off.
Remember once again the keys to a successful scene with hot wax:
1. Always be prepared ahead of time - this means knowing what you are doing!
2. Be aware of any potential hazards/flammables in the area you will be using.
3. Test the temperature of the candles ahead of time on yourself.
4. Pay attention to your victims reactions and adjust accordingly.
These are but a few tips and techniques to a waxing scene. I can't stress it enough. KNOW what you are doing ahead of time. Practice, practice and practice. This is not something the amateur should be doing!
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